Category: Relationships
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The Power of Good Questions
When how to express our needs is never taught, and a direct question is considered rude, learning how to ask for what we need is no small task. So how do we start asking better questions? How do we empower ourselves and cut through confusion in conversations with others?
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How to Have Better Relationships?
The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships: so if relationships are at the cornerstone of how we feel, how can we improve this area of our lives? How can we deconstruct what there is to be improved (or, rather, worked on) in the first place?
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Esther Perel: The Relationship Therapist You NEED to Listen to
Eroticism, infidelity, the changing role of marriage, the increasing expectations we have for our romantic interests, how to keep that passion alive, and so much more: during decades of her practice as a therapist, there is a LOT Esther Perel is willing to share with us.
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Codependency, Narcissism, and What Boundaries Have to Do with Both of Them
Are you a codependent? Are you with a narcissist? Or do you show qualities of both? To check this is scary – what if you do? But to check it is also crucial if you want to move forward (go deeper? end?) with your relationships, including the one we have with ourselves.
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Are You Sure You’re Responding with Empathy? Here’s a Checklist of Common Mistakes
To respond with empathy might be our intention but it’s not as easy it might seem. Our busy and caring minds tend to jump to so many potential responses, yet we have to be aware that not all of them are what creates that meaningful connection. So what is an empathetic response and what are the common mistakes we make?
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Are You a Deep Listener?
Deep listening is a thing: if you’ve ever felt that you weren’t truly seen in a conversation then you know it’s real. How can we improve our listening skills? What frameworks and reminders can we use? I have some suggestions for you. That’s a mix of what psychology, Buddhist psychology, and nonviolent communication point to.
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Can You Notice Different Forms of Emotional Manipulation?
Emotional manipulation is not always easy to spot. And to be able to set healthy boundaries, to feel safe and centred, we have to learn how to identify it. Terri Cole helps us here.
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Are You Setting Healthy Boundaries?
When unchecked, weak boundaries can result in accumulating grudges for the things we never really wanted to do in the first place. They can also lead to us simply not engaging with the tasks we’re taking on.
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Are You Responding Or Are You Reacting?
Responding instead of reacting – at least consistently! – is really hard. Yet it’s at the core of mindful, empathetic, and nonviolent communication. I talk in my podcast episode about exactly that.
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