Doing creative work is hard. By default, there’s a lot of uncertainty and, potentially, doubt involved. Listen to what Seth Godin has to say about it: he will leave you inspired and ready to trust yourself.
The price of not realising the difference between shame and guilt – words that we sometimes use interchangeably, right? – can be a life of misery.
When unchecked, weak boundaries can result in accumulating grudges for the things we never really wanted to do in the first place. They can also lead to us simply not engaging with the tasks we’re taking on.
Whatever system you use, whatever toolkit you have, make sure it’s a good one.
Don’t forget to update it, to expand it, or to thank and remove what’s not needed anymore.
I think there are multiple toolkits we and should be working on, but every other toolkit might not be as effective without this one. Accomplishment without joy, busyness without meaning, stress without purpose, relationships without being seen…
What’s the difference between “I did something bad” and “I AM bad?”
That’s the difference between guilt and shame. And what such self-talk correlates with will scare you.
You know those times when someone’s driving you crazy? When your self-image of a kind and empathetic person is being tested?
Yep, we’ve all had those. The bad news is that there’s no shortcut here. To respond mindfully can be pretty damn hard sometimes.
The good news is that it’s something we can work on, and it’s absolutely rewarding.
The work we do on ourselves and with ourselves is extremely important. But how can we bring that mindfulness, that empathy, that deep listening, and thoughtfulness to work? Here is one suggestion for you.
Is it enough to remove the stressor from our lives to be done with stress?
Weirdly, the answer is NO.
If you don’t see yourself as a generous person, the good news is that it’s not an innate quality. It’s a practice, which means we can work on it.
Just for today, let’s replace ‘purpose’ with ‘intention.’ Then, choose what serves you. And stick with it.