Category: Shame and Guilt
How Not to Take Things So Personally?
Choosing to take things personally – like, always… – is not an easy choice. Neither is it good for us. So what can help? What can we focus on and explore not to take things so personally?
Don’t Base Your Growth on Shame
Can we base our desire to change and grow on something destructive? Unfortunately, that is possible, and the unhealthy base we have to talk about is shame. What is it, how can we approach it, and what can we base our personal development on instead?
Growing Pains Suck. Let’s Frame Them in a Healthy Way and Ask For Help
When things are tough, don’t forget they you are not alone. And you’re never helpless. When faced with stress, overwhelm, anxiety or any other emotion that we deem unpleasant, please remind yourself about the tools that you have – including friends.
Don’t Go Down The Spiral of Shame
When we’re in shame, we tend to close off. We think we’re flawed, unworthy of love and connection, and we don’t want to be found out. So what are the ways for us to leave this shame spiral?
The Potentially Life-Saving Difference Between Guilt and Shame
The price of not realising the difference between shame and guilt – words that we sometimes use interchangeably, right? – can be a life of misery.
The Dangers of Shaming Self-Talk
What’s the difference between “I did something bad” and “I AM bad?” That’s the difference between guilt and shame. And what such self-talk correlates with will scare you.
Have You Been Talking to Yourself Kindly?
A lack of compassion towards ourselves is no joke. It’s not a pleasant way to live. Constant negative self-regulation, playing small, and seeing anything that didn’t go “how it was supposed to go” as a failure serves no purpose. It’s not shameful to do it but we definitely don’t need to tolerate it.