Sometimes, the way to encourage yourself is to…discourage yourself! Among so many reminders to “keep on going”, we also need reminders to quit the thing that’s wrong for you. This article and podcast episode are exactly that: a kind reminder that you can allow yourself to quit the things that don’t serve you anymore. You can put the tool of quitting into your personal development toolbox.
Emotional manipulation is not always easy to spot. And to be able to set healthy boundaries, to feel safe and centred, we have to learn how to identify it. Terri Cole helps us here.
Doing creative work is hard. By default, there’s a lot of uncertainty and, potentially, doubt involved. Listen to what Seth Godin has to say about it: he will leave you inspired and ready to trust yourself.
Momentum is a cool concept but how to really get there?
Here’s my attempt to deconstruct it.
Have you ever assessed what the price of NOT taking a certain action was?
If you haven’t, take a moment and give that present to yourself. It can literally be life-changing.
Whatever system you use, whatever toolkit you have, make sure it’s a good one.
Don’t forget to update it, to expand it, or to thank and remove what’s not needed anymore.
I think there are multiple toolkits we and should be working on, but every other toolkit might not be as effective without this one. Accomplishment without joy, busyness without meaning, stress without purpose, relationships without being seen…
But embracing our weird selves, our strange and unique ways to rest and play is so important. In fact, its importance has been validated by real scientific research!
Changing your language itself is not a substitute for taking the action you want to take. But it’s a powerful tool to use.
We have all fallen on that ice. The action is to stand up and continue walking. With an aching back, but also with empathy for ourselves and others. Wholeheartedly.
If you don’t see yourself as a generous person, the good news is that it’s not an innate quality. It’s a practice, which means we can work on it.