Sometimes, the way to encourage yourself is to…discourage yourself! Among so many reminders to “keep on going”, we also need reminders to quit the thing that’s wrong for you. This article and podcast episode are exactly that: a kind reminder that you can allow yourself to quit the things that don’t serve you anymore. You can put the tool of quitting into your personal development toolbox.
To think about integrity can be extremely useful when you feel that “something’s wrong.” If we take emotions as signals – as we should! – one of the ways to analyse them can be asking yourself a simple yet powerful question: Are my actions aligned with my values?
The price of not realising the difference between shame and guilt – words that we sometimes use interchangeably, right? – can be a life of misery.
When unchecked, weak boundaries can result in accumulating grudges for the things we never really wanted to do in the first place. They can also lead to us simply not engaging with the tasks we’re taking on.
Momentum is a cool concept but how to really get there?
Here’s my attempt to deconstruct it.
Have you ever assessed what the price of NOT taking a certain action was?
If you haven’t, take a moment and give that present to yourself. It can literally be life-changing.
Habits can either serve us or reinforce our limiting beliefs.
They can also help us establish the identity we truly want to have.
Here’s my episode on habits, identity, and commitment.
What’s the difference between “I did something bad” and “I AM bad?”
That’s the difference between guilt and shame. And what such self-talk correlates with will scare you.
You know those times when someone’s driving you crazy? When your self-image of a kind and empathetic person is being tested?
Yep, we’ve all had those. The bad news is that there’s no shortcut here. To respond mindfully can be pretty damn hard sometimes.
The good news is that it’s something we can work on, and it’s absolutely rewarding.
The work we do on ourselves and with ourselves is extremely important. But how can we bring that mindfulness, that empathy, that deep listening, and thoughtfulness to work? Here is one suggestion for you.