To respond with empathy might be our intention but it’s not as easy it might seem.
Our busy and caring minds tend to jump to so many potential responses, yet we have to be aware that not all of them are what creates that meaningful connection.
So what is an empathetic response and what are the common mistakes we make?
The price of not realising the difference between shame and guilt – words that we sometimes use interchangeably, right? – can be a life of misery.
When unchecked, weak boundaries can result in accumulating grudges for the things we never really wanted to do in the first place. They can also lead to us simply not engaging with the tasks we’re taking on.
What’s the difference between “I did something bad” and “I AM bad?”
That’s the difference between guilt and shame. And what such self-talk correlates with will scare you.
Is it enough to remove the stressor from our lives to be done with stress?
Weirdly, the answer is NO.
But embracing our weird selves, our strange and unique ways to rest and play is so important. In fact, its importance has been validated by real scientific research!
We have all fallen on that ice. The action is to stand up and continue walking. With an aching back, but also with empathy for ourselves and others. Wholeheartedly.
What are those small acts of courage that we can choose to do even when our choices are otherwise limited in this pandemic? What does it mean to live a wholehearted life?