Sometimes, the way to encourage yourself is to…discourage yourself! Among so many reminders to “keep on going”, we also need reminders to quit the thing that’s wrong for you. This article and podcast episode are exactly that: a kind reminder that you can allow yourself to quit the things that don’t serve you anymore. You can put the tool of quitting into your personal development toolbox.
Emotional manipulation is not always easy to spot. And to be able to set healthy boundaries, to feel safe and centred, we have to learn how to identify it. Terri Cole helps us here.
Doing creative work is hard. By default, there’s a lot of uncertainty and, potentially, doubt involved. Listen to what Seth Godin has to say about it: he will leave you inspired and ready to trust yourself.
To think about integrity can be extremely useful when you feel that “something’s wrong.” If we take emotions as signals – as we should! – one of the ways to analyse them can be asking yourself a simple yet powerful question: Are my actions aligned with my values?
The price of not realising the difference between shame and guilt – words that we sometimes use interchangeably, right? – can be a life of misery.
When unchecked, weak boundaries can result in accumulating grudges for the things we never really wanted to do in the first place. They can also lead to us simply not engaging with the tasks we’re taking on.
Momentum is a cool concept but how to really get there?
Here’s my attempt to deconstruct it.
Have you ever assessed what the price of NOT taking a certain action was?
If you haven’t, take a moment and give that present to yourself. It can literally be life-changing.
Whatever system you use, whatever toolkit you have, make sure it’s a good one.
Don’t forget to update it, to expand it, or to thank and remove what’s not needed anymore.
I think there are multiple toolkits we and should be working on, but every other toolkit might not be as effective without this one. Accomplishment without joy, busyness without meaning, stress without purpose, relationships without being seen…
Habits can either serve us or reinforce our limiting beliefs.
They can also help us establish the identity we truly want to have.
Here’s my episode on habits, identity, and commitment.