If you like to say “I’m a perfectionist”, you might wanna drop it.
Why? Because there’s one meaning of perfectionism that’s really unhealthy — but only if we never learn about it.
That’s why I’ve recored this super quick episode!
Four minutes: that’s how quickly I summarise how perfectionism is defined and then say what’s wrong with one of those definitions — and trust me, it’s really not helping us in ANY way.
Watch the video now to see if you’ve been tricked into using the unhealthy definition!
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