The ultimate lie we tell ourselves is not that there is no food, but that the soul isn’t hungry.
I’ve heard this saying in one of the talks of a person I couldn’t love and admire more, Jack Kornfield. His Buddhist psychology teachings – or Dharma talks – have changed my life.
I think about this specific quote often.
I think about the lies I successfully – and sometimes even proudly – tell myself.
I think about what my soul is hungry for.
I wonder what it would tell me if I’m being more still.
(I also fear I won’t have the courage to follow up)
But I think there are seasons when the price of not listening becomes too high, or maybe the conditions for listening become ripe, not necessarily for the coolest reasons.
Maybe this end of the year is such an opportunity for you.
Maybe it’s something you’d like to create for yourself.
As someone whose journey of learning to address her own needs has been, I’d say, ridiculously long (and not finished yet!), I’ve been asking myself this question increasingly more often in the past years, and it’s time to share it with you. It’s also a question that implies the possibility of engaging in something therapeutic and potentially healing when the world seems to be on fire, without some free pass to avoid putting effort into putting those fires out (I don’t think political action can be replaced by, let’s say, a soul-nourishing dancing experience — but it can be complemented by it).
So, what is YOUR soul hungry for?
Is it more community, more openness, more meaning, more solitude, more realness, more collective political action, more learning, more healing, more self-compassion?
What is it that your soul craves for?
(Or perhaps it’s burning away certain aspects of how life has been recently)
I hope you take a moment to reflect. I hope it brings you somewhere beyond the obvious. I hope your shoulders drop as your body validates the answer(s).
I hope, if you are privileged enough to set a big table for the end-of-year holidays, you don’t exclude your soul from the list of who’s invited.
Stay strong but keep your heart open ❤️
Justina
PS. Find the political work that I mention so often here.
Subscribe to receive my blog updates directly in your inbox.
See my latest pieces here:
On The Missed Opportunities of Not Being a Coward
Do you ever think of the concept of cowardice? Do you ever see yourself as a coward? And, the opposite, when do you see yourself as having the courage to stand up for what is right? I think history is giving us one extremely grim opportunity to do the right thing – yet it’s not taken by everyone.
Continue readingMy Wishes for Adults on A Day When Children Are Back to School
The excitement of a new school year is still with me, long after the school experience itself. But my wishes at the beginning of a new school year are different from those of a child: they are the wishes I have for adults.
Continue readingSee If You’ve Missed This Important Question about Dehumanisation
We dehumanise ourselves by dehumanising others. But what if the opposite is also true: that we can’t fight dehumanisation with full force if we still haven’t identified all the ways we dehumanise ourselves?
Continue readingWhat The World with Israel in It Looks Like – And Why It’s OK for Our Nervous Systems Not to Be OK
I hope it is something you can address with your therapists, friends, or online community at least: that if you are aware of how this world has been, your nervous system can’t be doing too well. And as long as we live in a world where fascist regimes like Israel can exterminate people in front of our eyes, we cannot be OK. But what we can do is put conscious effort to change that world.
Continue readingWhen There’s an Opening of The Heart, But The Ones in Power Are Preaching Destruction
There is a saying that the cracks in the heart is where the light comes through. I also think it’s from where that light also shines. In my essay, I invite you to protect your hearts in this time of mass destruction; to engage in antiwar activities; to save your own humanity.
Continue readingIf You Reject Gaslighting in Your Personal Life, Reject It When It Comes as War Propaganda, Too
We can call it war propaganda (as we should), but we can also use another rather popular concept: gaslighting. This is what is being done to us on a global scale, as the U.S.-Israel war on Iran is being waged. That’s why, if you’re feeling that you might be losing your mind when you watch the mainstream media, indeed, that is the point.
Continue reading







Your thoughts